![]() ![]() There are a few people who have opted out entirely (like my husband who just isn't interested and my step-brother).and they attend, but just watch and laugh at the gifts. The next in line are two boys who are currently Freshman in high school.so they will go in the draw in 4 years. So far, we have one in college.so he has been in the draw for 2 years (one of my nephews). Once the kid graduates from high school, then they go in to the draw. We have a maximum dollar amount that can be spent (but less is fine esp as people's personal circumstances go up and down every year).įor the little kids, the adults are allowed to give gifts to each of the kids.but don't have to. Each person buys a gift for their person. What we are doing now is the I ''draw'' names for everyone (actually I have a spreadsheet where I track it so that one half of the family gives to the others so that parents don't get their own adults kids/grandkids and vice versa). In our extended family, we moved to a ''name draw'' a few years had gotten insane with everyone giving everyone gifts (esp as people got married, added kids, etc.). You keep the tax deduction, set a great example, and get to do some real good with your gift instead of just feeling obligated! Maybe you can give a charitable gift in their names, if you so choose. Even if your own budget is not noticeably suffering, you can announce that you'll give a gift to charity instead of gifting individually. With the economy in the dumps, you now have the perfect excuse to stop too. We have a very big family, and my attitude toward gifts is that they are for ''children'', not just a generation of ''kids'', so I stop the gift-giving to my siblings' kids once they start college. ![]() If you are all physically together for the gift-giving you could try the white elephant game (google) for the over 18 set-young adults find this lots of fun. I would say age 18, which sounds like in your family would add a few people to the ''adult'' group, so it wouldn't only be the older generation and one young adult. By the time I was that age, I never wanted gifts from my older relatives, anyway, because they were so out of touch! Big Family If you're worried about offending, you could mention to the kid's mom that you're phasing out gifts, but I bet they'll be fine with it. My nieces and nephews are all college age or older now, and lately I've only given gifts when they graduated high school, when they got married or when they had babies. I'd say once they're out of high school (or possibly earlier) you can stop giving individual gifts without hard feelings, especially if you're not particularly close to them. Willing to hear any and all comments on this dilemma. My inclination is fine but don't expect a gift. My sister noted that her daughter was not part of our generation and that it wasn't something she wanted to do. I'm not particularly close to them and feel that once they are an adult they can join our adult ''grab bag'' group where one adult gets a present for one other adult in the group. I'm not big on gifting - maybe I'm a bit of a Scrooge, but I don't like the obligatory part. ![]() have graduated from college, I am beginning to think that the gifting would stop. More advice about Christmas Gift GivingĪt Christmas, we have been giving presents to nieces and nephews.The in-laws' extravagant gift exchanges.Tired of gift exchange with adult siblings.Holiday Gifts - We Want OUT! How to put it nicely?.When to stop obligatory family gifting?. ![]()
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